After you rinse off the shampoo, apply a conditioner. Conditioner provides the necessary slip which helps in taking the knots out. Keep the conditioner for 3-4 mins and follow the rest of your shower routine. The reason being, conditioners contain cationic (positive charge) conditioning agents which makes a bond with our hair which is negative charged. So let the conditioner sit for a few minutes so that it can provide enhanced slip. After some time, start detangling your hair. Best way to detangle is to use your fingers. When you use your fingers then you are more aware about knots and you can pull them apart with gentle pressure. Later on, once you are free of knots then you can use a wide tooth comb. Always remember to be extra gentle when you detangle your wet hair as hair is more prone to breakage when it is wet.
Detangle hair before shampoo after applying some oil. Oil helps to lubricate the hair and helps in detangling. Section your hair. Take one section, apply oil and detangle it. Use your fingers first then use a wide tooth comb. Once your are done with one section then make a braid or twist to keep it separate from rest of your hair. Work on rest of your sections. For better moisture you can steam your hair before shampooing it.
Mix both the methods
You can mix both these method to take the knots out. For example, the hair at the nape has maximum knots than rest of your hair. So you can use your fingers to separate your hair gently as much as possible before the shampoo. And then continue the rest of detangling process after applying conditioner.
Depending on your hair type and experience follow the method that suits your hair and hence cause minimum breakage. Also, from my experience if you have styled your hair using gel or any other styling product then it is better to go for wet detangling. Again, it varies depending on your hair type, so try out different methods to find out the one which suits you.
Starts at the ends and work your way up
Whatever method you choose to detangle always start at the ends. Hold your hair at the mid length so that your hair is not tugged or pulled from the root. You should not feel the pain while detangling. If you do, that means your are pulling your hair at the root. Part your hair in sections and work on them section by section. By holding the section at the mid length start detangling your hair at the ends and slowly move up while keep holding the section to avoid pulling.
Things to consider
You can follow a few best practices to avoid knots. Tie your hair on top while sleeping so that hair won’t rub against the pillow. Use a satin or silk pillow for less friction. Second thing to consider is, do not rub your hair when you shampoo or apply conditioner. Wash your hair with scrunching or smoothing motion to avoid tangles. Check this post on how to shampoo curly hair. One last thing is, get your hair trimmed every 2-3 months to get rid off dry or split ends.
Have patience and be gentle
Detangling is the only process that should take maximum of your time out of the washing routine. DO NOT HURRY. If you do not have enough time to wash your hair on any particular day then delay it but do not rush. Do not comb very hard as it will stress your hair and result in split ends and breakage. If you find any knot that is impossible to take out then do not pull it break instead cut it off. Be extra extra gentle with your hair and it will help you to avoid breakage and split ends.
And also remember that a healthy human being can loose 50-100 strands a day. As we do not comb our hair between two washes so you see more shed hair in the shower. Because all the loose hair from everyday get stuck in your hair and you see them all at the same time in the wash day or when you the dry detangling before the shampoo.
I hope this will help you in detangling your hair. Let me know which method you follow or any other suggestion that can help us in detangling our hair.